Being a mom can be challenging at time. Your days may be filled with hard times, frustrations, and disappointments as you deal with imperfect and sometimes frustrating people. Moms are asked to do so much and juggle so many things. How can we make it through all of the crazy days?
“Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had, and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed.”Linda Wooten
Don’t look for a false sense of peace. I have found things to cope that have a “numbing effect”. Turn on a TV show, play a game on your phone or endless social media scrolling. These things don’t really bring me the needed peace I am seeking. They only turn off my mind or distract me from the things I want to avoid. What can you do to find hope and peace in those challenging times?
“God’s most extraordinary work is most often done by ordinary people in the seeming obscurity of a home and family.”Neal A. Maxwell
I have found things that help me get through challenges and give me added hope. Here are some of my favorite things to do to help me.
- Find a listening ear. A good friend can go far to encourage and support.
- Inspirational Podcasts. I had a friend recommend “Cultivate a Good Life” Podcast. It is nice to know that there are other moms out there just like me and struggling through the same things as I do and are okay! Do you have a motivational podcast you love? I’m always looking for new ideas.
- Listen to some good music. Singing along to some of my favorite songs definitely lifts my spirits.
- Don’t compare you or your kids to others. It seems to be we like to compare their strengths to our weaknesses. When really we are all challenged by different things. Each of us is unique and struggling with different challenges and abilities.
- Play with a cute little baby. There is nothing more soothing to me than holding a sleeping, peaceful baby. This always lifts my spirits!
- Spend some alone time with your spouse. Moms don’t get enough breaks. Find time to spend with your spouse. We do a weekly date. Sunday nights are a fun couple discussion and inventory time. I really look forward to our chats. One of my favorite things to do with him is to go on walks together. I always feel better after our walks.
- Get some exercise. Move it! Go for a walk. Take a hike. Whatever you can do to get moving. You will feel better afterwards and it will help you have more energy to play with your kids. Here’s my post on getting exercise.
- Tackle something on your “To-Do List”. I always feel better when I have had a productive day.
- Find someone else to serve. Seeing someone else’s problems always makes mine seem smaller.
- Get some sunshine. Take a short break from whatever you are doing and go outside. Springtime is my favorite time. Just sit out there for a few minutes with the sunshine on your face. It has a way of lifting me every time. I don’t even mind pulling weeds because I love being outside so much.
- Get more sleep. If I’m hungry or tired there is no reasoning with me. After a good nights rest, I feel so much better. I can think clearly and have more energy to make it through the day.
- Eat! Hangry is a real thing! Try to eat heathier and be consistent. Don’t skip meals. Put snacks in your to-go bags or in the car if you’ll be running around.
- Celebrate successes. Focus on the good in your life. Start a gratitude journal to count all the great things happening in your life. You’ll be surprised just how many blessings you have.
- Turn to the Prince of Peace for help with all of your trials in life. Prayer has been a great support in my challenges in motherhood. I remember when we first moved into this new area and I felt so alone. I prayed for a friend and had one move in around the corner. We became best friends and went on walks with our kids in their strollers. It was a soothing balm for my lonely heart. Thomas S. Monson said, “The Lord is in the details of our lives.” There is nothing too small or unimportant to Him. If it is important to you, it is important to Him. Turn to Him in prayer. Tell Him of your heartaches and challenges. He hears you and will help you! He will answer your prayers in His time and way but He answers will come. He can heal, comfort, restore, succor, strengthen, console, and cheer our souls. Rely on Him and He will help you through all of the hard times.
“There are few things more powerful than the faithful prayers of a righteous mother.”Boyd K. Packer
Moms really don’t get enough credit for all of the endless “little” things we do daily. What you are doing is worth it! You are raising the future!
“Mothers, cherish that role that is so uniquely yours and for which heaven itself sends angels to watch over you and your little ones. Yours is the work of salvation, and therefore you will be magnified, compensated, made more than you are, better than you are, and better than you have ever been. “Jeffrey R. Holland