This week’s challenge is to give your family additional support, confidence, and hope in life through encouraging words and actions. Encouraging family members will help them grow and develop in a positive way. It will bring greater love, harmony and friendship into your home. Focus on helping family members develop intellectually, physically, spiritually, and socially through different types of encouragement.
You will do fantastic! You are amazing! You are so kind! You have so much inner strength!
How do you speak to your family? The words you say and the tone you use really affect the situation for good or bad. I sometimes fall into the negative trap. Where only the bad gets noticed and addressed. I know I can be better about noticing the little awesomeness that happens in our home. The kind gestures from one kid to the other. A helpful hand. Try to notice and tell them how that impacts my life or others when they are so kind.
Celebrate family member’s successes. We like to take our kids out to celebrate good grades, after recitals and concerts and plays. Our favorite is ice cream. Sometimes, we go to a movie. You can celebrate new jobs, or making a team, or achieving something difficult academically. Find something special to celebrate. Make them feel special for their achievements in their lives. It will help them want to continue to improve and do better.
Sometimes you don’t have to use words for encouragement. For instance, a simple hug goes a long way with my son. Making eye contact while they are talking, a nod, a compassionate expression, making a special breakfast before a big test, a note on a mirror or pillow, a smile when they walk in from school, or spending quality time with them all show that you appreciate them. Try to show appreciation for simple, little things. It will make a huge difference!
Offer your support in person. There are two families in my neighborhood that are such great examples of putting their families first. I see the entire family at every event of every member. My family used to come to things, but when it became inconvenient, I think I let my family “off the hook”and now it really isn’t common for them to come to my basketball games or for all of us to happily go to sports games and concerts. I know that is something I need to work on. Not just going together to the events, but being present while I am there. I need to focus on the event and not my phone, and interact with the people around me…especially my family members.
Try to have fun with their interests. My daughter loved owls so we took a trip to the bird refuge for owl day. She loves moose and my son loves bears so we went all over Yellowstone looking for them. We found 8 bears and finally found a moose on the last day near Jackson Hole. We had a lot of fun searching for their favorite animals. The kids loved that we focused on them and their interests. We’ve also watched a lot of educational shows about those animals. and have learned a lot of interesting facts!
Try to encouraging talents. Talk to your kids about what their interests, goals, and dreams are. Encourage them to try new things. Dancing and sports are usually the first to be tried, but what about an art class, STEM class, or cooking class? Sometimes we forget about talents such as compassion, studying, being a good helper, or a good listener. Help your kids to recognize when they do have talents like those.
You can hold an Encouragement Council or a strength bombardment. At dinner or during a family council time go around the room and take turns sharing positive traits about each other. We did this not too long ago where we each wrote 5 things we loved about each family member. It was interesting to read them and everyone seemed so happy that day! It really is fun to hear great things about yourself!
Try to recognize positive actions as they happen. Be observant throughout the day. are they playing nicely, did they clean or organize something, did they help or encourage a sibling, did they show responsibility by coming right home and doing homework, did they put their shoes away instead of leaving them in the walkway. Take time to notice those things and then let them know how it impacts you and the others around them.
There are so many ways to show encouragement to your family members. It will make a huge difference in the feeling in your home. Look for ways this week to try some of these suggestions out to encourage and let family members know of your love. I’d love to hear what you do!
Things that inspired me today.